While there are some people who are on the alert from time to time, there are others who are more or less always on the alert. And while these people will have a radically different experience on this planet, that doesn’t mean they won’t come into contact with each other.
a passerby
So regardless of how one experiences life, there are likely to be times when you walk past someone who is having a different experience. This is something that could happen when you are shopping or on vacation, for example.
There is also the possibility that they talk to people while at work who are different. In fact, some of your friends may also experience life differently, and you may not even realize this.
Opening
If you were to talk about how you experience life, it might be hard for one of your friends to understand you. This friend may not know what it’s like to spend most of his life in a vigilant fashion, or this may be all he knows right now.
But if one felt the need to open up, it is likely to show that their life is not going their way. Therefore, one is more likely to open up if he finds it difficult to relax with others.
Hidden
At the same time, when you experience life this way, you may end up keeping it to yourself. The reason for this is that if you don’t feel safe with others, they won’t want to say anything that could make things worse.
One might think that it is not a good idea for them to talk to people about their experience, as it could make them suffer even more. And if they are surrounded by abusive people, this is not going to be a big surprise.
other factor
However, for one to reach this stage, one would need to be aware of how one experiences life. Another way of looking at this would be to say that if you can’t take a step back and reflect on what’s happening to you, there’s no reason for you to come closer.
This is how life will be and they will go to great lengths to ensure that others do not dislike them. In their eyes, this will be something they will have to do; It’s not going to be something they can do anything about.
The ideal
When one is able to relax with others, it will allow them to express their true self. There will be no reason for them to focus solely on what is happening around them, and this will allow them to tune in to what is happening within them.
By being able to focus on what’s going on inside them and what’s going on outside, it will be much easier for them to function. Not only will they be physically separated from others, but they will also behave as if they have their own needs and feelings.
At the time
If something happened, and one needed to defend themselves, for example, they could take action. Other than that, you will be able to be present, and this will allow you to respond rather than react to life.
This will prevent them from creating unnecessary trouble and will save them a lot of time and energy. If they have something to say, they will say it; there will be no need for them to keep their thoughts to themselves.
a focus
On the other hand, when one cannot relax with others, it will prevent them from expressing what is going on inside of them. They will have disconnected from their true self and have created a false self in their place.
Your main priority will be to make sure they don’t have a negative effect on the people in your life. So, one will do everything possible to appease others, and this, naturally, will take a lot from them.
A powerful ability
Because of the amount of time they have spent concentrating on the moods, behaviors, and facial expressions of others, there is a good chance that they are very good at reading people and figuring out how they will behave. Then it will not be difficult for them to behave in a way that pleases people.
Even so, there will still be times when this doesn’t work, and it will likely have a big effect on them. Another person could end up verbally abusing them, and one could end up overwhelmed with fear.
The rule
The problem is that even if you are not around someone who is abusive, that may not stop them from walking on eggshells. Therefore, even if one is close to someone who is not interested in controlling them, it won’t matter.
As a result, you will get used to feeling anxious, and other people might describe you as someone who is always on edge. They will not be able to let go and be spontaneous.
a deeper look
What this probably shows is that one’s childhood years were a time when one had to walk on eggshells in order to survive. This would have been a time when it was essential for them to tune in to the needs and desires of their caretakers.
If they did not do this, they may have been abused and/or neglected. So it is to be expected that they experience life in this way as adults.
Awareness
Having been raised in this type of environment, one is likely to suffer a great deal of trauma. And until this is resolved, it will be a challenge for them to connect with their true selves, relax into their body, and attract healthy people.
Here the assistance of a therapist or a healer may be necessary.