Number one on the list of phone call rules for women is to keep in mind that men do not view phone calls in the same way as women. Women love to be in touch with a man they are interested in, some men feel the same way, but most don’t.
It is rare to find a man who finds long or frequent calls attractive. I know this because all the men I’ve been dating who have an interest in displaying the exact same attitude re. phone calls and text messages.
They will just take their period of time. Don’t be discouraged if a day or two goes by and you don’t hear from the man in your life.
I have three rules regarding calling a man you are dating until you become exclusive or until you are sure where he stands regarding his feelings towards you and your relationship and his opinion about talking on the phone:
1. Don’t call him.
2. Don’t call him.
3. Don’t call him.
You have no reason to call him at all. None. Of course, there are times when you may need to call such as emergencies and no one else is available to help you. Either you are waiting for me to call or you want me to call from time to time (meaning once in a while). Or you’re on your way to meet him and need a quick confirmation of something. Other than that, he knows where to find you when he wants to talk.
Men are really serious about phone calls and text messages. They use your behavior regarding these things to make certain assumptions about you. For example, if you constantly call the men you date and don’t wait for them to make the first move, some of those men will label you as overly aggressive and perhaps even borderline desperate.
There are three reasons why you should not initiate the call:
1. Most men talk a lot less than we do and are generally not very good at multitasking. So when you call out of the blue and he’s in the middle of something, he may ignore the call and consider it a nuisance or he may answer but it won’t be a positive experience that makes you feel good (because he has to cut you off, he’s distracted, etc. ..).
2. When you initiate calls, you’re sure you’re in the position/mood to talk, and as such, it gives you the positive connection experience you want.
3. You don’t want to create a precedence that you are the one initiating all the contacts all the time and he never does that. When a man feels like you’re going to get the job done anyway, he’ll stop trying, and in the process, he’ll feel like you’re in charge and his attraction light bulb is a little off now.
Remember, men want to chase you, not the other way around. You can say, “But this is 2011!” True, other than they haven’t evolved much since 1911, or 1811, or even 1511.
You should always remember that men and women view phone calls, emails, and text messages in very different ways. If you make the mistake of calling too often, at the wrong time, or before he is ready to hear from you, you can turn it off. Every woman should know everything about calling men if she wants to stay in control of her relationship. Women inadvertently ruin their chances for a future with a man because they are too eager to hear from him. Don’t let this happen to you.