Everything you will ever be resides in your hands. It does not reside in the person next to you, in the street or in anyone else around you. People, places, and things can help influence what you want to do with your life, but ultimately it’s up to you.
All that you will ever be is not in yesterday’s experiences, it is in your tomorrow. What a person says or does is on his shoulders, he should not rest on yours. You will be and have what you want most in life.
Your path is yours. You can help others, but they have their own journey and you have yours. Free your soul from all the unnecessary ties that will exhaust you and make you undo frustrations and annoyances. Life is so precious and sometimes we take it for granted. It usually wakes up in us when something devastating happens to someone close to us.
You are here to walk your path in life and by standing your ground, you appreciate everything that surrounds the universe. Don’t take on someone’s fear, guilt, depression, or any other negative traits. This is putting a huge cloud over the sun that illuminates your soul. Ultimately, it will take its toll on you. It is like a sinking ship. You can help rescue the water, but at some point you will have to get a lifeboat or swim. The other person will have to do the same.
I have seen others take on emotional weight and unnecessary guilt because of someone else’s actions. Leave that. It is of no use to you in your life. You have to step back and realize that it was their actions, not yours, that put them in that situation.
“Letting go” is easier said than done. So how do you get rid of someone else’s emotional torment? Well, first of all, you always want to help in any way you can. If it’s because of guilt or manipulation, then look at it for what it is. Say it by name out loud and see how it feels to start. Would you manipulate someone else? Then don’t let anyone do it to you.
Next, change the standards. It’s okay to say “No” to people. It’s okay to say, “I don’t like what you do” or “I don’t like how you treat me.” Maybe they didn’t realize it had such a bad effect on you and they will change the way they treat you. If they don’t change, it’s up to you to walk away from the situation.
I wrote this because I realized how much people carry the negative emotions of others, and it hurts their own soul.