There is a secret to driving a man crazy just thinking about you. When he tastes a really good cake, but there’s very little to feast on, he finds himself searching for the exact same cake at different bakeries and wishing for the whole pan instead of a small slice. You are the cake: make him hungry for you. Here’s how to make him miss you more.
Never settle for “good”
Going the extra mile is pretty much everything for any relationship. Mediocrity makes you seem like the millions of other girls who walk past him every day. But if you know how to add a little oomph to anything you do, he will always compare you and find you better than anyone or anything. Everyone puts sugar in their coffee, but you use a secret recipe that involves honey. He may not know how you make his coffee, but he’ll still crave him, and you, when you’re not around.
Get out of the loop.
You are always online on Facebook and respond to every text message you receive, no matter who it is from. If he knows that you are so nice, he will put you in the last of his priorities. Why? Because you’re so easy to reach, you don’t need to call ahead to make a reservation. This means he can hang around, and if he’s unlucky, he can turn to you. But when he does, it doesn’t mean he’s missing you.
Leave subtle traces.
Try this trick. When he invites you over to his house for dinner and a drink, leave him something material that reminds him of you. A scarf, maybe. Or spray your perfume on her pillow. The key word is subtle. If he throws out the entire contents of his bottle, he’ll know what he’s doing, throw out the pillow and just get a new one. But if at the end of a long day, he lays down on his bed and smells you, he’ll remember how much fun he had with you.
Your subtle trails shouldn’t lead to you so easily.
So you left your scarf on his couch. He doesn’t know that you left it there on purpose, and if you’ve made a good impression on him, he’ll return it, but with the main intention of seeing you again. So he will call you to tell you that you left your scarf. Be ‘unavailable’ a few times that he asks, until he can’t take it anymore and will probably deliver it to you himself, with flowers.
Being busy.
The worst thing you can do to yourself if you think if he is thinking about you. After a great date, he goes on with your life like a normal person. If you are single, mingle with other people. If he calls again, put him down a few times gently telling him you’re busy. Never be aloof, or she’ll just move on with her life and find someone else. One trick is to make him wait. “Saturday? Oh no, sorry, I have a beauty convention to attend, but next week would be great” is better than “Sorry, I’m busy.”
Try something new from time to time.
You’re beautiful, and that’s exactly how you got his attention in the first place. But try looking at the same old thing over and over again, and you’ll soon find your eyes drifting. Always make your guy miss you by giving him something new to look at. What’s great about this too is that he can imagine you when you’re away, and everyone knows that anticipation increases with imagination. Tell him you have a tan, but let him know on the phone. So don’t bother showing yourself for a few days. He will keep wondering how you look.
Hold on to your emotions.
If you’re dating but aren’t at a point where you’re in a relationship, you’ll need to refrain from telling him how you feel in the meantime. The guy just enjoys your company and whatever you have. If you reveal how you feel, and especially if you drop the L word, he may pull away from you and force himself to forget you because he’s under pressure. Let him miss you and the fun times you spend together, without the drama.