Too often in the normal or secular world there is the battle and discussion about women who should submit to men. Do an Internet search for “rebellious wives” or “rebellious women” and you’ll find that this is no small concern, nor is there a shortage of opinions. There are Rebel magazine for women, Rebel thoughts of a woman, videos of men punishing women to send, etc. Christians have a greater volume of discussion since in books of the Bible such as Ephesians, Colossians and 1 Peter it clearly says that “…submit to your own husbands” (NIV).
Even government and political affairs have no protection against this culturally disturbing thinking, as presidential candidate Michele Bachman was asked if she is a “submissive wife” at an Iowa Republican debate.
Well, while we’re in the mood to celebrate “Father’s Day,” I want to provide an answer and solution to the men and would-be fathers who are being emotionally torn apart by this group of psychological experts we’ve created around this topic. Regardless of my position as an author, speaker, and more for family legacy issues, I deliver this more than a man and father who has a willingly submissive wife. However, my wife is a mother, a career woman, independently strong and opinionated. However, there is no conflict in her submission. Why do you ask?
The way to make the rebellious wife a submissive wife is:
1) Be a considerate husband: have an intelligent and well-informed understanding of your wife. Be a student of your wife on all levels of intimacy and not just when it comes to sexuality. Give her honor that is more than your prompt preparation to bear the price of her deep suffering for her. This is the same price that means the willingness to die protecting your wife and children.
2) Recognize it as the weaker glass: remember that a glass is rarely interpreted as something abstract; rather, there is always tangibility in the context of its use. As such, the expression of weakness clearly refers to a physical aspect of the woman or her wife, and not mental (intelligence), psychological, or emotional. Our society has abused this expression a lot.
3) Realize your equality with your wife – This speaks to the level of importance of you and your wife. Between you two there is none favored; you are absolutely equal in the essence of your relationship. So, does the Bible contradict itself by repeatedly stating that “wives must submit”? No, the call of the Bible is strictly based on the roles we are to play as husband and wife.
4) Intercede for her in purity – Your purity of heart, actions and thoughts have great importance and is the determination of your consistency or inconsistency in your attitude towards her. More importantly, her purity is central to her prayers for her and her children’s prayers before God.
If you can authentically demonstrate, embody, and exemplify these four components within the nature of your relationship with your wife, I promise that a rebellious wife will quickly become a submissive wife for you. The truth is that your wife is designed to be incapable of not submitting. Honestly, she has no problem submitting to a man. She just has trouble submitting to you as a man. Unfortunately, you are the only one she is truly designed/created to submit to. The great news… it can be fixed.
By the way, here is the source of my wisdom:
1 Peter 3:7 (NIV)
So also you who are married should live considerately with [your wives]with a[c]intelligent recognition [of the marriage relation]honoring women as [physically] the weakest, target [realizing that you] you are joint heirs of the grace (God’s unmerited favor) of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered or cut off. [Otherwise you cannot pray effectively.]