Many couples enter the world of swing looking for a threesome with only one woman. When they realize how difficult it is to achieve that goal, the focus often shifts to playing with pairs. Single females in the lifestyle are typically called “unicorns” due to their rarity. While it may be difficult to have a threesome like this, it is by no means impossible. Couples have several strategies they can use to end up in bed with that elusive unicorn.
Below is an overview of each strategy. Follow-up guides will be created for each strategy to give more detailed explanations.
Swinger parties
It is rare to find a single woman at a swingers party, but if you attend enough of them, you will run into them from time to time. Some of them are merely curious, some are only interested in a girl and a girl, and some are interested in the coveted threesome. If your only goal is to have a threesome and you are not interested in foursomes and playing with other couples, then we DO NOT recommend that you attend swinger parties. If you meet a single woman at a swingers party that interests you, be present in the moment and involve her. If you’re hoping to have a threesome, you can’t be shy and expect the girl to make the first, second, or even third move. A single woman can practically choose who to sleep with at a swingers party.
Direct approach (bars, clubs and parties)
As long as you are in a vanilla (not swinger) place at night, you can directly approach the women that interest you. You don’t have to propose to the woman right away, but after starting a conversation, building chemistry, and rapport, in certain circumstances it may be possible to end the night in a threesome just like you would a one-night stand. Whether you want your female half to approach first or for both of you to approach together is a personal choice, however we recommend that the male half of the couple not approach alone. Understand that if you follow this strategy they will repeatedly reject you, but there are girls interested in experiencing a threesome and if you connect with the right one when they are in an open mood and you do nothing to scare her. or scare her, you can get the experience you are looking for.
Female friends
Girlfriends are a great source for finding girls to have a threesome with. The female half of the couple can talk to their friends and feel them for a possible threesome. Also, letting receptive friends know that you are looking for a threesome opens up the possibility of one happening. A friend may not be available right now, but after a breakup, they may be more inclined to explore and have fun. The male half of the couple can also share the wish with their friends. If one of these girls is already into him, they might be open to a threesome.
Individual recruitment
If either of you find a girl attractive, you can approach with the intention of having a threesome. If you approach the female half, you can be more direct. However, if it is the male half, the best option is to go after the girl as someone with whom you are interested in casual sex. After you sleep with the girl once, start feeling her for a threesome. If you bring it up first, you risk making her feel like a whore and are only interested in her for the threesome. Many girls are more than comfortable engaging in casual sex and exploring new things with men after they have slept with them, but very few are as receptive to such ideas before they have been intimate.
Online sources
Websites like Sexxy Mofo, Swing Life Style (SLS), and similar services have real single women seeking threesomes on their sites. However, those real single women are interspersed with even more profiles that are “fake” as they are men pretending to be women or women looking to attract couples and single men to visit their paid website or pay via a webcam. Understand that when you text these girls, there is tremendous competition to try to get their attention. If your profile and message don’t stand out from the crowd, you’re less likely to receive a response. While using online services can result in threesomes, it is very difficult to do so. We recommend using online services to supplement your search, but it should not be your main strategy.